Dear Birth Control Pill, Where as My Period?!
Dear Birth Control Pill, Where as My Period?!
Beginning next Monday, February 16th, Nutrition Services is partnering with many offices across campus to host a positive body image week. In the past, we’ve celebrated National Eating Disorder Awareness Week, but found that students are already aware of eating disorders. Renaming the week and focusing on learning to embrace our bodies can help students to move away from some of the behaviors that might increase risk of developing disordered eating and exercise patterns.
Here’s a breakdown of the events we have going on next week, all of which are free and do not require tickets.
Monday, February 16th:
We had just wrapped up at the Istanbul Archaeology Museum, drained from taking in all the incredible history exhibited in the museum’s three buildings. The consensus was to take the tram to a spot for lunch, then hop on it again to find a baklava shop we’d heard is amazing. The tram is one of several fantastic methods of public transportation used by what feels like everyone (at the same time) in the city of Istanbul. A seat on the bus, metro, or tram is a highly coveted spot that is not easily attained. In fact, sometimes just getting on any of these vehicles is a nearly impossible feat because they are so crowded. “Maximum Capacity” doesn’t seem to be a concept as firmly held here as it is in the U.S.
Collaboration & Change for a Common Good
A Reflection on Collaboration in Campus Life
India Pierce and Sean Novak
One way that we can work effectively to create change for a common good is to work collaboratively across communities. With this in mind, India Pierce from the Center for Sexual & Gender Diversity (CSGD) came together with Sean Novak from the Center for Multicultural Affairs (CMA) to create a program that explored the intersections of race and sexual orientation. As part of the CMA’s En/Countering Racism series (E/C), they created a program for students to gather and explore intersectionality. This was done in order to deepen participants’ understanding of themselves and others as a means to building stronger coalitions for social justice.
I recently read the book by Daniel Bergner, “What Do Women Want?: Adventures in the Science of Female Desire.” After my initial eye rolling “who but a guy can talk about female sexuality?” thoughts, I opened my mind and read. Then I heard him in an interview say the following beautiful words. I was so moved that I pulled over to the side of the road in order to fully attend to what he was saying.
“I sometimes think we have to be a little braver about just caring more. Caring, and being open about caring about sex, with one’s partner sounds like it should be easy, but I think often it’s not because you can fail and you can feel hurt. And so I think that candor and caring are important and might well be the root to maintaining passion.”
Will you help me? Today, I am on my “Relationship Soapbox.” I invite you to get mad with me and spread the word. First, I supply context. Something like 18 times a week, I hear some version of this from friends, neighbors, family and students:
“Me and this guy, this girl, this friend (insert whatever nomenclature fits here) are “hooking up” but we are not in a relationship.” Let’s suspend my irritation with the laziness of the “hooking up” verbage. I will save that rant for another blog. For today, I will focus on the silliness of the notion of sexual intimacy without a relationship.
Sexual harassment is defined as unwelcome, unreciprocated and unwanted sexual attention, gestures or touching - occurring to an extent in which they adversely interfere with your life because of their severity and persistence. Sexual harassment is taken very seriously by the Duke community. The Duke Harassment Policy states: "Harassment of any individual for any reason is not acceptable at Duke University."
Did you know that rates of sexual harassment are almost equal for male and female students?
According to 'Drawing the Line: Sexual Harassment on Campus' (AAUW Educational Foundation, 2005), males and females report having experienced sexual harassment at similar rates, but the types of harassment they experience are very different.
It really is true what they say about being a parent. One day their little chubby hand in yours crossing the street, telling you they want to live with you forever. And the next, packing up and going to college. I used to think of this as such a desperately sad thing. But I have come to understand that these are the thin places, where the sacred meets the profane. And you don’t get one without the other.
I walk around campus now and it is teeming with beautiful faces. And while so often we wish for the quiet of the summer, I have to admit; it’s good to see everyone again. Once again, I am part of a tribe, a thin place.
Among the top 3 sex questions I get asked is “does it get better?” I take it from this that a lot of us are having at best pretty disappointing first sexual experiences and at worst painful and confusing.
So, let’s start with the first, disappointing. I will save the suspension and go ahead and answer a resounding yes! Or, perhaps I should say “Yes! Yes! Yes! Yes!”
The first time I rode a horse (okay, all right, I know, I know, skip the joking) but seriously, it’s an apt and personal memory. The first time I rode a horse I was terrified. 2000 pounds of energy and muscles and I was supposed to know how to stay on, how not to get hurt, much less figure out how to enjoy the experience. I am a “set your expectations low” kind of lass and I remember being grateful that nothing had broken – on me or him. No one got hurt.
Just like sex.