We had just wrapped up at the Istanbul Archaeology Museum, drained from taking in all the incredible history exhibited in the museum’s three buildings. The consensus was to take the tram to a spot for lunch, then hop on it again to find a baklava shop we’d heard is amazing. The tram is one of several fantastic methods of public transportation used by what feels like everyone (at the same time) in the city of Istanbul. A seat on the bus, metro, or tram is a highly coveted spot that is not easily attained. In fact, sometimes just getting on any of these vehicles is a nearly impossible feat because they are so crowded. “Maximum Capacity” doesn’t seem to be a concept as firmly held here as it is in the U.S.
Collaboration & Change for a Common Good
A Reflection on Collaboration in Campus Life
India Pierce and Sean Novak
One way that we can work effectively to create change for a common good is to work collaboratively across communities. With this in mind, India Pierce from the Center for Sexual & Gender Diversity (CSGD) came together with Sean Novak from the Center for Multicultural Affairs (CMA) to create a program that explored the intersections of race and sexual orientation. As part of the CMA’s En/Countering Racism series (E/C), they created a program for students to gather and explore intersectionality. This was done in order to deepen participants’ understanding of themselves and others as a means to building stronger coalitions for social justice.
Will you help me? Today, I am on my “Relationship Soapbox.” I invite you to get mad with me and spread the word. First, I supply context. Something like 18 times a week, I hear some version of this from friends, neighbors, family and students:
“Me and this guy, this girl, this friend (insert whatever nomenclature fits here) are “hooking up” but we are not in a relationship.” Let’s suspend my irritation with the laziness of the “hooking up” verbage. I will save that rant for another blog. For today, I will focus on the silliness of the notion of sexual intimacy without a relationship.
Sexual harassment is defined as unwelcome, unreciprocated and unwanted sexual attention, gestures or touching - occurring to an extent in which they adversely interfere with your life because of their severity and persistence. Sexual harassment is taken very seriously by the Duke community. The Duke Harassment Policy states: "Harassment of any individual for any reason is not acceptable at Duke University."
Did you know that rates of sexual harassment are almost equal for male and female students?
According to 'Drawing the Line: Sexual Harassment on Campus' (AAUW Educational Foundation, 2005), males and females report having experienced sexual harassment at similar rates, but the types of harassment they experience are very different.
Among the top 3 sex questions I get asked is “does it get better?” I take it from this that a lot of us are having at best pretty disappointing first sexual experiences and at worst painful and confusing.
So, let’s start with the first, disappointing. I will save the suspension and go ahead and answer a resounding yes! Or, perhaps I should say “Yes! Yes! Yes! Yes!”
The first time I rode a horse (okay, all right, I know, I know, skip the joking) but seriously, it’s an apt and personal memory. The first time I rode a horse I was terrified. 2000 pounds of energy and muscles and I was supposed to know how to stay on, how not to get hurt, much less figure out how to enjoy the experience. I am a “set your expectations low” kind of lass and I remember being grateful that nothing had broken – on me or him. No one got hurt.
Just like sex.
“He doesn’t get points for that.” It’s one of the most common “sheilaisms” you will hear in my office. We quite simply live in a culture that literally awards boys points for merely NOT walking into a room and punching a woman in the face or raping her or telling her to go make him a sandwich. How often do we get annoyed with young mothers in grocery stores for their loud children and how often when it’s a dad struggling, do we offer help or at the very least think to ourselves “oh look at that great dad babysitting his children?” Imagine thinking a mom is babysitting her children.
There are those who talk and there are those who do. WHO (Women's Housing Option) does. This living group has set themself apart as more than just a place for women to live. Concepts like "safe space", "social advocacy" and "community efficacy" come to mind when looking at the stirring and dynamic new campaign that was launched last week. Body image issues are a reality in many of our lives. The statistics that support this truth are alarming as words are spoken with little or no thought given to the lasting psychological impact that is left in the wake of commentaries on women's bodies. It is encouraging to see that, with the photo expertise of Ashley Tsai, this group of women has created space to invite conversation, expand thought provoking images and develop the tools to initiate positive change. All of our lives are affected when even one life is disrupted by the inability