Counseling & Psychological Services (CAPS)

How to BE in LOVE Series

This workshop series addresses the common issues and questions facing students involved or interested in romantic relationships.  While the emphasis will be on romance in U.S. culture, we will also invite discussion on the cultural influences represented by the diversity of students who attend.  We'll also incorporate the implications of sexual orientation on the issues and concepts being introduced.  Students are invited (and encouraged) to attend the entire series, but you are free to attend just the ones you find more applicable to your life or your curiosity. 

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Session 1: How to FALL in Love: This session explores the necessary ingredients of moving toward the experience of being in love, including recognizing when this can be happening.  Distinguishing between "falling in love" and other experiences that may seem like love at first, this session will explore questions such as "Is it love or infatuation? Why does it fade? What does it mean when it ends?   How can it keep going?"  We'll also explore some prerequisites to falling in love and how to cultivate them.   Whether you are in a relationship, hope to be in a relationship, or are trying to better understand a past relationship, this workshop helps you define what you may value in relationships and what the essence of intimacy is for you. 

Session 2: Good Relation Ships: This session explores some of the common stages of romantic relationships, focusing on those that are experienced as healthy and enriching.  Traits of positive relationships, including effective communication, relationship integrity, and trust will be introduced.

Session 3: Toxic Romance: This session introduces the common pitfalls that often doom relationships as well as helping students recognize when they may be in relationships that are toxic to them individually and threatening to their ability to mature into somebody that can engage in healthy and enriching romance and intimacy.  Gender dynamics and social norms will be reviewed, with an emphasis on the psychological and relational dynamics that are not only toxic, but often hard to get out of.   

Session 4: Breaking Up IS Hard to Do: This session explores the difficult process of moving through a romantic relationship break-up.  We'll introduce common stages of a break-up, highlighting ways that often result in feeling stuck in the "holding on" stage.  Most importantly, this relationship will help translate the painful experience of a break-up into elements to improve future relationships with one's Self and, potentially, with future partners.

Because space is limited, we ask that you pre-register for these workshops.

Open to all Duke students (or couples, provideded that at least one partner is currently enrolled as a Duke student).

For more information call 919-660-1000.