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Friends, Faculty, Staff and Other Concerned Individuals, Contact DukeReach

During business hours you may contact us at 919-681-2455 or email us at dukereach@duke.edu. We will connect you to the appropriate resources.

For emergencies after business hours, call Duke Police (919-684-2444) or page the Dean on-Call (919-970-4169).

We invite you to look through our resources. If you are concerned about a student's health or behavior, please complete a DukeReach report via the web, or call 919-681-2455. We would be happy to assist you.

Download the 

Fall 2015 DukeReach Resource guide

 for students.

Download the DukeReach Supplemental Guide to Faculty and Staff booklet.

 

Bystander Intervention

P.A.C.T.- Prevent. Act. Challenge. Teach.

PACT is an interactive, student-facilitated training sponsored by the Women's Center that aims to engage everyone in preventing gender violence on Duke's campus. PACT Training helps students identify situations of concern, and provides knowledge and tools to encourage safe and successful interventions.

UASK

Put your safety first. Download the UASK Duke app for real-time personal security. This invaluable tool for any undergraduate, graduate, and professional student at Duke includes two panic buttons, one that immediately calls local emergency personnel, and the other directly to Duke campus police; the ability to alert friends with notification and emergency messages, and campus resources in the event you have experienced sexual violence. Click one of the links below or search "U ASK Duke" on the iTunes App Store or Google Play Store.

Duke LiveSafe

Duke LiveSafe is a mobile app available for free through the Apple App Store and Android App Store that offers real-time, two-way communication between Duke community members and the Duke University Police Department. The major features of the app are described below.

Emergency Contact: Duke LiveSafe provides quick call access to emergency contact information for 911 and Duke Police, as well as the ability to send a text message to Duke Police.

Report/Submit Tips: The app allows users to submit tips by text, photo, video and audio, about anything from assault to suspicious activity. If desired, tips can also be submitted anonymously. Duke Police monitor tips submitted through the app 24/7 and can engage in two-way chats with users to obtain additional information.

SafeWalk: The app also uses GPS technology and allows friends and family to “safe walk” a user to his or her final destination by tracking the individually virtually on a map to ensure they arrive safely at their destination.  App users must initiate a request or accept a request to safe walk a contact to enable the GPS tracking. Location services must be enabled for this service.

Resources: The Duke LiveSafe app will also include static information and contacts for important safety and security resources at Duke and the surrounding community. Find information about what to do in various emergency situations, referral options for sexual harassment/assault, and contact information for student and employee health resources. This information is downloaded to the app and can be pulled up, even without a cell signal.

Parents and Family Members

When a child is sexually assaulted or the victim of relationship violence, parents may experience a range of mixed feelings.  Sometimes parents can even have what is referred to as “secondary post traumatic stress symptoms.”   Parents may start to exhibit some of the same psychological and physical symptoms as the actual victim of the sexual assault or violence.  These reactions may include, sadness, anger, fear, disrupted sleep, intrusive thoughts, thoughts of revenge and retribution, difficulty concentrating, or lack of appetite.  You should listen to these symptoms and seek help, both the support of family and friends and professional help. 

If you have been sexually victimized at an earlier point in your life, this event may be “triggering” that memory and clouding your response.

 How can you help your child? 

  • Avoid the impulse to take over. Your child may be 18 years old and likely never have managed such a big event in their lives.  It is understandable that you may believe that your child is not handling the situation as they should.  Maybe you want your child to report this to the police and they refuse.  Maybe they are working with the police and you think that is a bad idea.  Either way, you may likely feel sure in your conviction that you know better than your child because you have greater life experience but resist this urge to try and solve all the problems. Giving your child control is a first step in healing.
  • Understand that the developmental task for people age 18-22 is to individuate. In this process of growing up, leaving childhood and beginning a foray into the adult world, sometimes what makes absolute sense to them seems totally illogical and ill advised to people in their 40s and 50s.  Do not make the mistake of thinking that they think like you do.  You may look back to this time of your life and say things like “when I was your age I would have never….” Or “when I was your age, I would have….”  We remember things in a distorted way.  We weren’t as smart then as we think we were and we weren’t stupid, either.
  • Avoid blaming your child. Never ever say the following:  “Why were you at that party?”  “What were you doing drinking that much?”  “How many times did I tell you to stay with your friends when you went out?” “You went where with a guy you hardly know?”  These questions and questions like them will psychologically hurt your child.  Believe me, they may not say it to you, but your child is already saying these things to themselves.  If you ask these kinds of questions your child will hear this: “It’s your fault you got raped,” “You are so stupid,” “You have disappointed me” and those cognitive distortions will provide a fertile garden for the growth of emotional and psychological problems such as depression and anxiety.
  • Place blame on the perpetrator. Understand that most college age men are not sexual predators.  However, a small number of men who attend college fit the definition of sexual predator.  These men often have many victims.  It is not your child’s fault that they fell victim to a crime.  
  • Separate your anger and distress about your child's victimization from any concerns about a drinking or drug problem. For example, if your child was drinking alcohol and they are underage or you feel their use of alcohol was excessive and at the same time they were sexually assaulted, now is NOT the time to address the alcohol issue.  First, deal with the fact that your child was the victim of a crime from a perpetrator who either proactively used alcohol to facilitate their crime or saw in the moment that your child was impaired with alcohol and saw an opportunity to commit a crime.  This process may take several weeks.  Later you can address your child’s choices around alcohol by saying something like: “Honey, I am really proud of how you are working through all of this.  I want to talk to you about something that is not connected to it but is something I have been thinking about lately.  Let’s have a conversation about your choices around alcohol.”  Or if you are concerned about your child’s sexual decision making, follow the same rules.  You definitely do not want to insinuate that your child brought on a sexual assault because they made a poor sexual choice.  For help talking to your child about alcohol, Duke Student Wellness Center (DUWELL) is a great resource.